My personal recommendations for parents
Many parents now wonder if their behavioral child is suffering from ADHD. The good news is: Most likely no, because all symptoms of attention deficit hyperactivity syndrome (ADHD) may be temporary in healthy children as well. The German Medical Association assumes that far more children will be examined for suspected ADHD (about 5-15%) than are actually affected (about 3-5%). With 300,000 to 500,000 people affected, however, the extent of ADHD disease postulated by the highest medical institution is still very significant. Increasingly, childhood-onset disorders are also diagnosed among adults.
Is it the pressure?
Experts like the family therapist Jesper Juul point out that this is also a social problem. Children and adolescents react more quickly to ill-health than adults. Disease-making can also have a life and parenting style, which is always about distraction and bespaßung. Children need a lot of unstructured time to develop their independence and creativity. And to come in contact with one's own needs and abilities. This strengthens the child and can also protect it against the development of ADHD.
The diagnosis ADHD is a double-edged sword.
On the one hand, it is an expression of the fact that today there is an increasing need for help and support for children (and possibly their parents), which was once simply negated. Because ADHD has been known for over 100 years and was at that time, at least as far as the genetic disposition is concerned, probably no less common. On the other hand, the "disease value" of a medical diagnosis also easily tempts one to focus on deficiencies and their therapeutic care rather than on the basic conditions. However, do not be self-blaming or blaming, but seek and find ways to promote the well-being of your child and your own. Every crisis holds the chance that things will go better afterwards than it was before.
The 10 tips
- 1. What your child (like all children) needs the most, is your loving and understanding with him. This also includes a tender, strengthening body contact. Take your child more often. Your love and your trust also have a therapeutic effect. You strengthen the self-esteem and self-esteem of your child.
- 2. Do not focus on the disease aspectsbut on the abilities of your child. Beware of words like: "You just can not because you are sick"! Instead, motivate your child to develop his potential. As? For example, by making it clear to him at every failure that you have recognized and valued his efforts, but that is more than that.
- 3. Consider whether you have given enough attention to your child, Child psychiatrist Paulus Hochgatterer, for example, speaks of a lack of attention by parents towards their child in ADHD. Certainly not an all-encompassing explanation for the phenomenon, for which a genetic predisposition is held responsible. But an important clue to the critical self-reflection of the parents. Not to clarify questions of guilt, but to come to child-friendly solutions.
- 4. Vote with the supervisors in kindergarten or at school and work with them to find suitable solutions if problems arise. In the case of pronounced partial performance disorders, it may also be useful to seek medical or therapeutic help. In most cases, children with ADHD should be able to attend a "normal" kindergarten or a "normal" school. A small group or class size may facilitate incorporation and may play a role in the selection of a suitable institution.
- 5. Note the increased accident risk. For ADHD children, it is statistically six times higher. Even on the awkwardness scale, they often rank at the top. Therefore, take appropriate (not exaggerated) safety measures and reduce the potential danger in the household. Especially for your child, but also for any treasures such. expensive vases or electronic devices. Avoid overreactions if something happens.
- 6. Your own behavior is enormously important. Rituals are just as helpful for a structured daily routine as they are for observing regular bed times (such as reading aloud, having a goodnight song). Pay attention to the specific needs of your child and provide loving and consistent framework conditions that provide peace and security and promote sleep and sleep. Although clear rules and common arrangements cost effort, they help your child a lot if they are respected. Wanting to force yourself to sit still is nonsense.Instead, support your child in exercising his urge to move appropriately. Sport is good, but rest periods are also important. Informal, of course. Sometimes, not only the children but also their parents need or need help finding peace.
- 7. Do not search frantically for a culprit, Many parents of children with ADHD or suspected ADHD tend to raise the question of guilt. "What have we done wrong?", Or even more popular the - often unspoken - thought, "YOU have done something wrong." While it is right to critically reflect on parental behavior towards the child, please avoid convictions. We all do something wrong in education. What matters is not the question of guilt, but the attempt to question certain behaviors or reaction patterns and, if necessary, to change them.
- 8. Reflect and reconsider your affection granted to the childand your own style of education, including values and goals in all directions. Take out the pressure (which is often built unconsciously or without reflection). Think carefully and consistently about where you need to intervene (for example, self-or other hazards due to misconduct) and where not. Practice yourself in serenity and humor instead of in lamentation and despair. It may sound harsh, but the ADHD diagnosis is not there to relieve the burden on the parents. It should be handled accordingly sparingly. First of all, it's about checking the individual environmental conditions for your child. Only if you do not get beyond the limits of your options, you should contact an ADHD-experienced specialist.
- 9. Be pragmatic about the ADHD term. Meaning, it's good to realize that your child needs help. However, his needs and possibilities are in the foreground, not the labeling with a diagnosis.ADHD refers to a complex disorder for which there is no "evidence" finding. Instead of using objective criteria such as certain measured values or organ defects, the diagnosis is essentially based on the information and perceptions of caregivers of the child, and therefore primarily on you. Nonetheless, competent ADHD diagnostics include comprehensive examinations, including the exclusion of other diseases.
- 10. One treatment with methylphenidate (previously known asRitalin) is recommended, if at all, only as part of a total therapeutic strategy, but not as sole treatment. And of course only after a detailed consultation of the parents. Only in severe cases with very strong symptoms of ADHD and a high level of suffering can drug treatment be considered at an early stage. Otherwise, initially behavioral measures are preferable.
One more tip:Ensure a healthy diet for your child. To the best of our knowledge, ADHD is not caused by certain foods, sugars, additives or preservatives, nor by intolerances or allergies. Nevertheless, the importance of balanced whole foods should not be underestimated - even on the psyche.
By the way: If you want to play it safe with the vital substance supply, we often recommend a special oneHealth juice, One spoon per day covers all important nutrients and phytochemicals, a bottle holds for 50 days. We recommend not only for children but also for adults.
Author: Dr. Hubertus Glaser